The thing is, I know the guy too, while I think he’s a pretty stand up and decent guy, that doesn’t discount the fact that they’re both pretty different people and will eventually end up with a press release that says: “The couple have separated, citing irreconcilable differences as the reason.”
So I was trying to convince her to date other people, she was all like “You have to work hard at relationships. They don’t always just fall nicely into place and there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship.”
True, but constant bickering isn’t a sign of a healthy working relationship either. And for that matter, it’s not like she an expert on guys and relationships because she’s only ever dated one kind of guy. Different faces, different voices, but always the same basic archetype like all the James Bond actors over the years.
That’s like saying you’re a huge movie fan, even though you only ever watch one particular genre. Would Roger Ebert be considered an expert movie critic if he only ever watches horror movies?
If you only ever date one genre of guys, you’ll never really know what else is out there. Maybe you like the perennial favorite “bad-boy with a heart of gold”, but you might find that you actually really enjoy being with someone that who is more open with their emotions. Or maybe, just maybe, you might find that you even prefer someone like Ross from Friends.
Another problem she has is that she doesn’t really date. She goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship, which honestly doesn’t give her the time or opportunity to meet and hang out with different types of guys. But really, why handicap yourself like that?
Let’s go back to the movie analogy. So maybe you’re a massive fan of sci-fi movies… but should that stop you from watching the trailers of rom-coms or period dramas? Nobody is asking you to commit four hours to watch Dances with Wolves, but surely you can spare two minutes to see the trailer?
And that’s what dating is, right? A movie trailer. A quick glimpse at what a relationship with this person could be like, condensed into an evening.
Much like the 1998 remake of Godzilla, trailers can sometimes be incredibly deceptive and psyche you up for what is actually a crappy movie… but just as you can walk out of a Godzilla screening, you can also stop seeing someone after the second date, if it even got that far.
So please, for those of you who are still dating, don’t restrict yourself to one genre. Go out there and watch a ton of movie trailers and see what else is out there before deciding on a movie with a ridiculous run-time.
Because it’s Follow Friday, go and check out A Confederacy of Spinsters, a blog that follows the dating misadventures of three unmarried writers in Texas. I’m probably not supposed to read that blog because I’m a guy, but nevertheless, it’s hilarious stuff!