I was talking to a colleague the other day about appropriate dressing because we saw this old lady wearing a sheer black top that just hinted at way too much skin than we’d like to see on an old lady. The conversation led to cleavage, and how to react when women wear low-cut tops.

Remember how Sofia Vergara used to be called Salma Hayek?

The infamous Cocky belt buckle

It’s really not too different from Booth wearing his “Cocky” belt buckle in Bones to direct your attention to his FBI crotch.

But I don’t really want to go into the “why do women dress like that” debate, because that will lead to the whole “that’s a rapist’s excuse for doing what he does” argument, and I’m really not smart enough to talk my way out of that one.

What we did manage to figure out is that it’s okay to glance but not okay to leer. But what exactly constitutes a leer, and at what point does a glance cross over into a leer?

I really don’t know, and after years and years of teasing from the wifey, I’ve learned that it’s better to be safe than sorry – the moment I see anything that could resemble cleavage, I instinctively crank my head to face as far from it as possible. I’m like Linda Blair in the Exorcist, minus the green pea soup.

Blinders for men

Honestly, if it wasn’t such a safety hazard, I’d probably wear blinders just to avoid the endless teasing.

I know this reaction is a little bit on the extreme side, so what is that safe window commonly referred to as a glance? What defines a glance?

Is it a timing issue? Something like the 3-second rule?

Is it an intent thing… like how it’s okay to accidentally squish someone into the plexiglass if you weren’t looking, but not okay to take off your gloves and skate across half the rink to punch someone in the face?

Or maybe it’s okay as long as you look like David Boreanaz.

She was in that casino show with Tad Hamilton

Anyway, check out this weird Japanese prank where they catch guys leering at cleavage.

Note to self: don’t ever look at cleavage in Japan, because you never know when there’s a TV crew hiding around the corner.


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4 responses »

  1. I believe the glance should be like looking at the sun: never look directly at it, but use stealthy sideways glances to get an overall picture. It also keeps you from burning your eyes out from the “heat.”

  2. I disagree with this “experiment” …shouldn’t we control for some factors here? How do we know it is truly the cleavage that is catching the glance of the men? It could be the short red dress, or the legs that are exposed by that dress, or even the high heels. Maybe the men are just glancing to see what iPad or whatever she’s carrying? Perhaps for their next experiment, the lady should be wearing kicks; gray, baggy sweatsuit; and holding a pencil. LOL….Loved it when the second guy (with the pink and black hat) pretending to be looking at his phone (?) did a full 360 just to get a good look at her. Oh and the part where the guy started playing with himself while waiting for the elevator, ew! Or the other guy giggling like a little boy as if it was his first time seeing some skin. I have to give these men credit though…from experience, I know that men in the USA and EU tend to verbally express their delight — or they just whistle. The men in the video enjoyed the sight without bothering the girl. Japanese t.v. shows are so hilarious. I am not a big tele watcher, but when in Japan I delight over what offered in their channels.

    • drewpan says:

      Japanese TV is soooo weird, right? I mean, I’ve seen pranks where they humiliate people, and even scare the crap out of them by faking a terrorist attack or ghosts!

      Though you bring up a good point. If someone leers without verbally bothering you, isn’t that in a way just as creepy? I mean, it’s like the difference between a guy who constantly asks you out, and that other guy that just stares at you through your window and watches you sleep at night.

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