A friend of mine was complaining about his job recently and how his bosses have passed him over a promotion again, while still drowning him with the bulk of the workload and pampering the incompetent kiss-asses at work that bring them food and snacks.
He was really upset and wasn’t sure what he should be doing about it. Reasoning with his bosses didn’t work, and with his workload he just doesn’t have the time to stoop to the sycophants’ tactics.
Are you being taken advantage of at work?
While it seemed really clear to me that he was in a situation where he was grossly under appreciated, he didn’t quite see it that way… Until I asked him to transpose the details of his problem over a hypothetical relationship.
He wouldn’t put up with this nonsense if it was some unappreciative girl, so why put up with the abuse at work?
I guess sometimes it helps to look at things from a different perspective. So if you’re not sure whether you should leave your job or not, take the pros/cons and apply it to a relationship… And vice versa.
Sometimes, you just need to recognize that your relationship is abusive.
Maybe it will help make things clearer. Maybe it won’t. Either way, don’t resolve your work and relationship issues by going on a shooting spree.
PS Some really good comments have been made below, so I figured I’d highlight them.
Mitzie Mee says that you should remember to enjoy your single periods, and renxkyoko reminds you to have a job waiting before you quit… and that’s one example of when you don’t treat a job and a relationship the same way.
I guess it is hard in any relationship when you feel like you have a lot invested in it.
Yeah. You just have to figure out if the other person has invested substantially less into it.
Wow. I could strongly relate to this post.
Something bad happening at either work or your relationship?
Yep. Sort of. [Kindly refer to my recent post.] About work. Like your friend, I’m just frustrated whenever work bludgeons me and yet, and yet, nothing.
And remember to enjoy your single periods:)
So so so very true!!!
he/she should leave… but before doing that, see to it there’s a job waiting for him/her. Times are hard. * just being practical here*
Yeah totally. Though I guess it should be said that this is one area where jobs and relationships are TOTALLY DIFFERENT. Having a job waiting for you before you quit might be practical, but having someone ready before you break up with someone is just being douchey.
LOL ! ! I forgot to compare !
I know, huh. That’s a jerky move,…. * wide grin *
I hope you’ve never been at the wrong end of such a deal. I’ve thankfully been spared of that.
nah….. Have not experienced this… I hope never.
Ditto. Ditto. Ditto.
Also, you picked the best illustration for this post of yours.